Rihanna has blamed fame for her current single status as she’s convinced men are reluctant to date a woman in the public eye.

The pop star has been without a boyfriend since splitting from baseball star Matt Kemp late last year, and she’s convinced potential suitors are put off because they feel intimidated by her high profile.

In a recent interview Rihanna said, ”Not to sound crazy, but yes (I think men feel intimidated). And I think that’s very difficult because it’s a lot for them to handle, especially being in the public eye. It can be difficult. It can be tricky.”

But Rihanna remains hopeful she will one day find the perfect man, adding, “There’s gonna be someone who is not intimidated or not afraid to put me in my place.”

Oh boy, this is one of the reasons meeting people out at bars isnt necessarily the best way to meet your future husband. Drinks + Being Single + Dude You Made Out With At The Bar = BAD IDEA. This is for all my single ladies. Craaaaaa-Zeeeeee.

Indeed, Drew Barrymore is dishing out some love advice lately. In the new romantic comedy, Going the Distance, Drew Barrymore plays a woman involved in a passionate long-distance love affair. In real life, Drew says all her relationships are long-distance. Here are Drew’s tips for surviving love at a distance.

• Write letters. “[They're] the most thoughtful things you can do.” E-mail can be romantic, but tweets and Facebook are NOT.
• Make a plan. “It is essential, so you have something to look forward to.”
• Don’t let the separation stress you out. “That can become exhausting, and that wears on the relationship, and then it starts not to work.”
• Make each other laugh. “I may not have you physically, but if I am laughing about something you said, that is just as sexy…Keep that laughter up.”

I love it! You can see Drew’s new movie, “Going The Distance” in theatres this Friday. Hope everyone is having a fantastic week. Talk tonight XoXo -OA

Fellllllllas…this is what you’ve been waiting for!  Check out TheSmokingJacket.com

Finally, something for those guys who say they read Playboy for the articles: a chance to prove it.

Playboy Enterprises Inc. launched a website today that it swears will be safe to browse while at work, eliminating the need for men to throw themselves over their computer screen when the boss walks by.

 Playboy.com NSFW – not suitable for work. Instead, it’ll rely on humor to reach Playboy’s target audience, men 25 to 34 years old, when they are most likely to be in front of a computer screen.

“A lot of our audience logs on (to Playboy.com) after work and we saw that we were missing a golden opportunity to reach guys when they’re online the most: when they’re sitting at their desk, not working, sending e-mails to their friends,” said Jimmy Jellinek, Playboy’s editorial director.

What next? Is George W. Bush going to be in favor of gay marraige when he no longer has some power? Eminem apparently has come around and is speaking out in favor of same sex marraige, rather than bashing homosexuality like he has in the past. Kudos to Em.

In an interview with The New York Times Magazine, which was released just yesterday, Eminem speaks on gay relationships and marriages.

The rapper has used gay slurs several times in his music. MTV has reported that gay rights groups have called his lyrics “homophobic and hateful.”

After being asked by Times’ Deborah Solomon if he’d support a gay marraige in Michigan, Eminem said, “I think if two people love each other, then what the hell? I think that everyone should have the chance to be equally miserable, if they want.” Eminem promised to leave offending rhymes out of his upcoming UK shows. “I think I’ve calmed down a bit. My overall look on things is a lot more mature than it used to be,” he said. In the interview, Eminem tells Time that his new found maturity has a lot do with retiring his obnoxious Slim Shady persona. He said, “Shady still exists. But I don’t think the subjects on this record call for, you know, bringing the chainsaws and axes out and murdering everyone.”

Eminem’s new album, Recovery, was just released TODAY.

So, whether you and your significant other are just starting to date or you’ve been together for a while, i thought this would be a cute little post for you to take a look at. Im not really one to believe in this “cosmo-esque” surveys that dictate your life- but thought it might be worth a shot to check it out and share with you.

Psychologist John M. Gottman is the author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and he says you can predict in as little as five minutes whether or not a couple will stay married or together for the long haul. So according to the website called A Healthy Me.com there are eight things every couple should know about each other…

 He says EVERY couple should know the answer to the following questions:

1. Who are your mate’s two closest friends?
2. What is your mate’s fondest dream in life?
3. Who is your mate’s least favorite relative?
4. What is your mate’s basic philosophy of life?
5. What are your mate’s three favorite movies?
6. What are your mate’s three most special times in their life?
7. What are your mate’s current major worries?
8. What would your mate do if he won the lottery?

How many of the questions could you successfully answer about your mate? Something to think about. Have a great Wednesday XoXo -OA

According to Dr. Phil, cheaters have ring fingers that are longer than their index fingers:

Dr. Phil Fingers Cheats (NY Post)

Dr. Phil McGraw thinks that you can identify a cheating man by the length of his ring finger.

Having a ring finger that’s longer than your index finger is just one of the traits that he believes is an indicator of a man who’s prone to infidelity.

The daytime host has devoted today’s episode of his talk show to the many ways that it’s possible to identify cheaters — including brain scans and genetic testing.

While appearing on “The Early Show” yesterday, Dr. Phil said that cheating and non-cheating brains have distinct activity patterns. A player’s brain shows a lot of activity everywhere, while a monogamous man’s brain activity is concentrated in the back where the cerebellum is.

“You find these people that have a history of cheating, you compare their brains to normal and you see it’s dramatically different,” he said.

Other high risk factors include the presence of what some scientists call the “infidelity gene” — Allele 334 — and higher-than-normal levels of feel-good Oxytocin and libido-raising testosterone hormones. (Longer ring fingers are a sign of exposure to high levels of testosterone in utero.)

All of this isn’t to say that cheaters should get a free pass just because they were born that way. “You still have the ability to choose not to do these things,” Dr. Phil said.

Are you guilty or know someone that is guilty of any or ALL of these “mood killers” that Details Magazine are accusing women of? Feel free to discuss below! By the way, your hair looks awesome today. Mhmmm you just got an unexpected compliment.  XoXo -OA

1. Treat Me Like a Stripper Pole: Don’t get me wrong—unleashing your inner porn star in the bedroom is not a bad thing. But shrieking like a banshee while whipping around like Elizabeth Berkley in Showgirls isn’t hot unless you mean it. We like when things get naughty between the sheets, but if we wanted to see a B-actress performance of being turned on in bed . . .well, we’d just rent Showgirls.

2. Warp Speed the Relationship: We’re back at your place after the second date, and you’ve let me know that there’s just something magical between us, that we “get” each other. Perhaps you’ve started calling me by a cute nickname. Or talking about my inner circle of friends like you’ve been hanging out with them. But we barely know each other, and now I am slowly inching toward the exit with scenes from Fatal Attraction flashing through my mind. Let’s cop to the fact that we’re still new to each other and enjoy the process instead of acting as if we already have a process.

TheFrisky.com put out a list of 10 rules men need to follow while on a first date…

10 first date rules for guys

Ah, first dates. So nerve-wracking. If only you knew exactly what was going to happen, then you could plan out everything in advance. But first dates are kind of like playing the lottery. You’ve got to be in it to win it, but sometimes you end up empty-handed. If you’re a woman, you know these sorts of situations don’t always go so smoothly.

If you’re a guy, here are 10 tips that can make the first date easier on all of us.

Take charge. We do not want to decide where to go. We will never tell you this, but it is true. Ask us what kind of place and/or food we like; then, pick a place like that. Do not leave it up to us to choose. You are the man. Act like one.

Smile. When we arrive, smile. Maybe you are a tough guy. Maybe you are nervous. Maybe you are paralyzed. Either way, smile. Women are strange, exotic, intuitive creatures, and we respond well to positive reinforcement. Do not glower.

Mind your body language. If your legs are crossed and your hand is over your mouth, we will unconsciously think you are hiding something. If you are sprawled out all over with your legs spread wide and your hands behind your head, we will think you are a slob or generally loose. Sit up straight, lean in closer, and keep your hands where we can see them.

Ask questions. This seems obvious, but it’s surprising how many men don’t do this. You know what women like? Attention. Also, kittens, flowers, and cupcakes. Nothing else. If you seem curious about the woman sitting across from you, she will like it. For sure.

Listen. You can’t just ask a bunch of questions, and then not listen to the answers. They call this a “date,” but, really, for women, it’s more like a “test.” If you e-mailed or talked on the phone beforehand, remember what the hell she told you about herself. If you forget, we will feel angry and want to leave. Then you will be sorry.

Use flattery, appropriately. If at some point during our meeting, you tell us we are “beautiful,” “attractive,” or “pretty,” we will like you better than if you didn’t. It’s. Just. That. Simple.

Act confident. We really do not care if you are secretly neurotic, deeply insecure, or mildly nuts. We are interested in how you portray yourself. Act confident, interested, engaged, self-assured, ambitious, and happy. We like that. Thanks.

No pawing allowed. If you’re going to score with us at some point, we will let you know. Trust. Occasional physical contact is OK — a hand to the small of the back, a touch of the thigh, a brief holding of the arm while making a point. Do not grab anywhere in the red light zones. If we want your hands there, we will put them there.

Please pay. Feminism, shmeminism. Take care of the bill without comment. That is what we want. Wave off any offer to go dutch. We lied. We don’t want to pay half.

Say goodnight. Don’t meander off into the night. Do something. What — that is up to you: a handshake, a hug, a kiss. Do it right, and you might get a second date

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